Has your motivation left the station?

OVER THE PAST COUPLE OF WEEKS, MY HUSBAND HAS BEEN DROPPING SUBTLE HINTS ABOUT INVITING HIS PARENTS OVER FOR BRUNCH. 

“MY MOM WOULD REALLY APPRECIATE THIS HOMEMADE BISCOTTI.”

“YOU KNOW, MY DAD IS ACTUALLY A FAN OF RONALDO, TOO.” 

HE SAID RONALDO BECAUSE THE LAST THING MY HUSBAND KNOWS IS SPORTS, AND HE DIDN’T EVEN KNOW WHAT TEAMS WERE PLAYING (HONEY, IF YOU’RE READING THIS, I HAD TO SELL YOU OUT, I’M SORRY).

ANYWAYS,

I KNOW SO MANY PEOPLE HAVE MIXED FEELINGS ABOUT THEIR IN-LAWS BUT IF WE’RE BEING HONEST HERE, I LOVE MY IN-LAWS. THEY’RE GENUINELY GOOD PEOPLE WHO STILL HAVE A VCR AND SEVERAL RECORDINGS OF SESAME STREET THAT DATES BACK TO THE 90S. 

 

SO WHY HAVE I BEEN PUTTING OFF THAT INVITE? IT’S NOT FEAR, I CAN TELL YOU THAT. IT’S JUST ME BEING UNQUESTIONABLY LAZY. I’M GINA FROM B99 LAZY AND I AM NOT ASHAMED TO SAY THAT. 

IT’S JUST THAT SO MUCH NEEDS TO BE DONE. OTHER THAN GOING ALL OUT WITH THE CLEANING, I NEED TO BAKE, PUT TOGETHER A LIGHT BRUNCH, FIND SOMETHING APPROPRIATE TO WEAR, THINK OF TOPICS TO TALK ABOUT AND JUST AHHHH.

ALSO, MY IN-LAWS ARE VERY POLITICAL PEOPLE AND YOU WANT TO HEAR WHAT I KNOW ZILCH ABOUT? POLITICS. THE LAST TIME MY IN-LAW WAS HERE, HE ASKED WHAT I THOUGHT OF THE PRESIDENT’S IDEA OF ENDING TARIFFS AND TRADE BARRIERS BETWEEN THE U.S. AND ITS G-7 ALLIES…

I HAD TO EXCUSE MYSELF JUST SO I CAN GOOGLE G-7 ALLIES. 

 

SO YEAH, YOU CAN SAY I’M LACKING THE MOTIVATION TO MOVE FORWARD WITH THE INVITE. IT WOULD BE LIKE GOING INTO THE BELLY OF THE BEAST. 

SO WHY AM I TELLING YOU ALL THIS? BECAUSE I WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT EVEN THE SIMPLEST TASKS, WE TEND TO LACK MOTIVATION. FOR SOME PEOPLE, THE PROCESS OF INVITING PEOPLE OVER IS MORE OF A HOBBY, THEY FIND JOY IN IT. FOR OTHERS LIKE MOI, IT'S SOMETHING WE DREAD. 

EVEN UNDER THE BEST CIRCUMSTANCES, WE FIND IT DIFFICULT TO STAY MOTIVATED. IT'S NOT LIKE THERE’S A PILL WE CAN TAKE THAT MAGICALLY PLACES A SMILE ON OUR FACE AND A SPRING IN OUR STEP (OTHERWISE I WOULD’VE FOUND IT AND USED THE HELL OUT OF IT).

SO HOW DO THEY DO IT? ALL THOSE HIGH ACHIEVING PEOPLE YOU SEE ON SOCIAL MEDIA, WHAT DRIVES THEM? 

 

SOMETHING THAT ALL SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE HAVE IN COMMON IS THAT THEY ALL HAVE A GOAL. THEY ZERO IN ON IT, THEY PLAN IT TO THE LAST DETAIL, THEY KEEP STRIVING FOR IT, AND THEY RECOGNIZE THAT THE ROAD TO SUCCESS IS NOT AN EASY ONE.  BY DOING THIS, IT GIVES THEM WIGGLE ROOM TO LOOK PAST THEIR MISTAKES AND ACCEPT THEIR FLAWS. ROME WASN'T BUILT IN A DAY, PEOPLE. 

CHASING A GOAL DRAINS THE HELL OUT OF YOU. NOT TO MENTION ALL THAT NEGATIVE EMOTIONAL ENERGY THAT DECIDES TO TAKE THE PASSENGER SEAT ON YOUR ROAD TO GREATNESS. YIKES.

YES, THE RESULT IS STRESS, INSOMNIA, ANGER, AND EVEN TEARS. BUT LEARNING TO TRANSFORM THAT ENERGY INTO POSITIVITY THAT GOES TOWARDS YOUR CAUSE, OUR PURPOSE BECOME CLEARER. 

BY LETTING THAT NEGATIVITY SUFFOCATE YOU, YOUR MIND STARTS TO BELIEVE THAT THIS PARTICULAR GOAL WASN'T WORTH IT FROM THE BEGINNING. 

KEEP IN MIND THAT IF WE DON'T FAIL, WE DON'T LEARN

 

ALWAYS HAVE A POSITIVE ATTITUDE TOWARDS YOUR MISTAKES.

TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR ACTIONS AND LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH HELPFUL PEOPLE, PEOPLE WHO WANT TO SEE YOU SUCCEED. CELEBRATE EVERY ACCOMPLISHMENT NO MATTER HOW SMALL!

THIS IS HOW YOU GET STARTED. THIS IS HOW YOU STAY MOTIVATED.

Lena Baroud