LET IT GO SO YOU CAN GLOW
We all have been through something. Something that has completely changed our lives and changed who we are. Now, I know each and every one of us is on the path of self-discovery because believe me when I tell you, it is a path that has no end. Don’t let that scare you because there will be worthwhile lessons on the way that will mold you into who you are.
If I were to come up to you right now and compliment your beautiful smile, would it make your day? What if I praised you for how hard you work, how hard you try, how you never give up?
Would it make your day?
Now try saying it to yourself.
It's truly incredible what happens to our bodies when we begin to appreciate them. We immediately feel better, our lives get easier. And by that, I mean YOU will start to take control. YOU will start seeing your worth and set boundaries when it comes to choosing a partner. YOU will stop seeking happiness because you finally grasp the fact that it's already in you. YOU will come to the realization that you do not need anybody to make you happy. By maintaining a deep connection with yourself, slowly but surely, you will know what it means to really love someone.
Get out your post-it notes, people. Write these (or any) positive affirmations down:
I am beautiful
I am worthy
I am in charge
Stick them on your bedroom mirror, in the bathroom, on the fridge, in your car, on the front door, just anywhere you can see them. Every day for 30 days, repeat these affirmations. Don’t forget and always keep in mind,
You can't accept love if you can't accept yourself.
You can't accept love if you can't accept yourself.
The other day, I was scrolling through twitter and I saw a tweet that you can say pretty much changed my life:
"Replace "I'm sorry" with "thank you". So, instead of saying "sorry I was late", say "thank you for waiting for me". Replacing negativity with positivity and gratitude breaks the "I'm sorry" cycle. Powerful".
Read it again. And again. And again.
Think about why we feel sorry for ourselves.
Too many reasons, right? Sometimes our mistakes cost us our loved ones, our friends, our jobs, our money, and in some situations, our houses. Every mistake has a beginning, and every mistake has an end. Now, I’m going to tell you something you’ve heard, I don’t know, maybe a million times:
You cannot change the past.
How cool would it be if we could though, right?
When we constantly remind ourselves of our mistakes, we are emotionally setting ourselves up for self-destruction. Megan Hale, a therapist, states:
"The way we respond depends on the skills we have, the frame of mind we’re in, and how we perceive the situation at that moment. Maybe we didn’t have as much objectivity or acted out of survival or protection mode. Maybe we'd let stress build up, which put us at a higher risk of responding poorly. Whatever the factors, cut yourself a break. If you learn from it, it was never in vain."
Every now and then, we all think about how we could have approached the situation differently, right? Well, I am here to tell you that it’s those kinds of belittling thoughts holding you back from self-acceptance. They stay in the back of your mind, constantly gnawing at your thoughts and damaging your self-esteem.
Forgiving yourself is no easy task. Like anything in life, it takes time and practice. The first step is to #loveyourself.
Know that your mistakes do not define you. They do not define your future.
Through acceptance, we start the process of healing.
"I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet." Mahatma Gandhi, someone who obviously wasn't scared to be himself.
I am such a philosophical person. My first philosophy class was actually by mistake (I thought PHIL stood for philanthropy), but the next three were by choice. I became obsessed with it, became a huge fan of Nietzsche's work. Of all the philosophers I was assigned to write about, he seemed to be the only one that always stuck.
Why? Because he didn't give a flying crap what anyone thought of him. His writing style was different from anyone from that era!
Contrary to what you've read, he did not go insane, he suffered a series of strokes while resting in Italy which left him unable to move and completely paralyzed.
Ahem. Sorry, now I’m just dragging on and getting off topic.
But I can't help it, you guys. The people who preach that he went insane were obviously not fans of his work.
Now, why I bring up philosophy is because, for the majority of history, philosophers were individuals, they were loners. The majority of them did not fit in anywhere.
Did that stop them from continuing their work?
Their work is what landed them in our history books. These are people who were isolated from society for being themselves, but because of their literary and physical achievements, we wouldn't be where we are today in terms of inventions and technology.
When you look in a mirror, what is the first thing that comes to mind?
Something negative, right? How dull your hair is, how big your nose is, how fat you've gotten.
Take every single negative thought and transform it (like how the fairy godmother transformed Cinderella before she sent her off to the ball).
You need to remedy that negativity.
I have dull hair--->I have long beautiful hair and some people pay hundreds to achieve this color.
I have a big nose---> Without my nose, I wouldn’t be able to smell the amazing food my partner is cooking or the fresh crisp, morning air.
You need to get in touch with yourself. All this negativity comes from the world around us, from people, media (big fat liars), and even close relatives. When you realize your happiness depends on you and not on others, you'll start to view yourself in a different way.
And I promise you that this way is the best way.